So You Think You Can Use 'I' Statements?
'I' statements were invented by Thomas Gordon in the 60's as a way to help children communicate with their parents. The technique is so useful it's used most often in couples therapy, and could (and should) be used in any relationship in which it's important to convey your feelings. The Problem With You Statements The oppossite of 'I' Statements contain the word 'you' more often. Such statements, more often than not sound like accusations and blame. In doing so they often car