'I' statements were invented by Thomas Gordon in the 60's as a way to help children communicate with their parents. The technique is so useful it's used most often in couples therapy, and could (and should) be used in any relationship in which it's important to convey your feelings. The Problem With You Statements The oppossite of 'I' Statements contain the word 'you' more often. Such statements, more often than not sound like accusations and blame. In doing so they often car

Group therapy aims to help people become more emotionally resilient, more able to take responsibility for oneself and one’s choices and be more honest in their relationship to themselves and with others. What makes group different than individual therapy is that there are many more people in the room to have impressions about and reactions to. The increasing ability to reveal and explore your thoughts and feelings toward group members allows for greater self awareness. I am a

I am often asked by friends to explain how family therapy works, and if family counseling is right for them. I try and resist explaining the fascinating theory of Family Systems and to not get into a passionate explanation of the work of Dr Murray Bowen - the model of therapy I rely heavily on to guide me work. So, in the multifamily group I run in Los Angeles, I explain family therapy by using the Family Connection Pyramid. With this tool, I am able to explain to new familie